How a Dream about Shooting Your Mom Can Be Good

A client called me yesterday, very disturbed about a dream in which he tried to shoot his mom.  As I always do with this type of dream, I got really excited for him.  The only thing that can be “killed” in a dream is Learned Distress, the feeling that “there is something wrong with me being just as I am.”  And, the intensity of a dream indicates the intensity of Learned Distress that is removed permanently.

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Is Competition a Good Thing?

12 years ago, my mentor and colleague Mimi Herrmann said to me, “You hate competition. But you’re very competitive.”  I quickly said something like, “Shhhhhhh!!!  No one knows, and I’d like to keep it that way!”  When you have my personality pattern, it doesn’t feel safe to be competitive.  

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How Dreams Run Your Life

Do you know how much influence your dreams having on your waking life?  It’s immeasurable.  Each night, your brain takes how you feel about being human to sleep with you.  It uses that feeling to recharge your sense of self, which is the invisible engine that generates every moment of your life.  

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