Why Change Is So Darned Hard

Why change is so hardAre you working really hard to create good change for yourself, but not seeing much change?

Do you still wake up day after day feeling the same?

Are you stuck in the same situations?

The same kinds of relationship dynamics?

Do you do all the right things, but never see the promised results?

I hear this all the time.

Why is the change we want so hard to achieve?

To answer that, we have to look at what is being threatened by change.

Is it that you just don’t like change, as people like to say?

Is it that you are so stubborn or just plain dumb that you can’t see how much better life would be?

Nope!

The Inner Force That Resists Change

Your survival mechanism puts up an almost impenetrable wall to change.

In a very real and primal way, part of you feels that you will die if you change.

But how can this be true?

Rationally, you know that the change you’re working for is beneficial. Critical, even.

But, the rational, thinking part of your brain is not what stores this survival mechanism.

So, you can’t reason with it about change (or anything, for that matter).

Your Survival Storage Bank

Your survival mechanism resides within your sense of self.

It stores how you feel about being yourself (as opposed to what you think).

This part of your brain is 2½ years old.

That’s when it stopped developing and started to build around itself a wall of resistance to change—to make sure that your mechanism for staying alive stays intact.

Your Survival Mechanism Is Literally Unreasonable

Think of it this way. . .you’ve seen those news stories about an abused baby who is taken from her abusive parent and placed in a loving and nurturing home.

You know that she will be much better off in her new home, right?

But she clings for dear life to the person who has abused her. Why?

Because she has no rational, thinking capacity yet, there is no way to reason with her about this change.

The only survival she’s ever known is that abusive parent.

The same is true with your sensory brain.

It will hold onto the pattern of survival you absorbed early in life, even though you see rationally that this survival mechanism has meant that things only got harder for you.

Life has either gotten worse, or it has become harder and harder to make good things happen.

Right?

There’s Good News

Through 20 years of research, Quanta Change founder Mimi Herrmann figured out a way to break through the wall of resistance to change.

Quanta Change gives you a way to tell your sense of self that the change you want really is safe and good for you.

Even better, this process uncovers the natural well-being that has hid beneath your survival mechanism all this time

That’s right.

The source of the change you want is actually within you and just waiting to be uncovered.

Your Leap of Faith

I know.

You’re thinking, “Yeah, right. Just something else that will fail me.”

That’s what I thought when I talked with Mimi the first time, too.

But, I took a deep breath and gave it a shot.

And, that has made all the difference.

That’s what my clients say, too.

“I never believed I could feel good just being myself.”

“I never thought a relationship could work this well for me.”

“For the first time in my life, I feel a great sense of hope for the future.”

None of them believed these things were possible when they started Quanta Change, either.

Is it time for your leap of faith?

Sara Avery helps people get unstuck in their relationships, health, career, and self-expression. Learn how she can help you tackle your biggest challenges.

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