Why Is Change So Hard?

People tell me all the time, “I work really hard to create good change in my life and I still wake up day after day feeling the same and stuck in the same situations.  Maybe it changes a little, but not much.  I’m tired of working this hard and not really seeing anything change.”

Why is the change we want so hard to achieve?  To answer that, we have to look at what is being threatened by change.  Is it that we just don’t like change, as we so often hear?  Is it that we are stubborn or just plain dumb—that we can’t see how much better life would be?  Nope.Continue reading

Relax in the Sun or Work Hard to Keep the Darkness at Bay?

This is a question I like to ask my clients at the beginning of the process.  Here’s how l describe their 2 choices:

We’re blessed to live in a world with the sun that does many things for us and our planet—it gives us warmth, drives our weather patterns, nourishes our plant life, and countless other things we couldn’t live without.  How hard do you have to work for the sun to do these things?  Not one bit, right?

Now, imagine living in a room your whole life where the sunlight is completely blocked out.  To survive, you still need many functions the sun provides, so there is a light in the ceiling that does those things.  But there’s a catch—this light is attached to a stationary bike which you must ride to keep the light turned on.  So, you have to work hard just to survive.

Would you rather continue to ride the bike or get off and stand out in the sunshine?  That’s the difference between surviving through your pattern of Learned Distress and living from your well-being.

Your bike-riding style is your Sensory Quotient pattern. 

Idealists are able to ride the bike well and they keep the light turned on brightly, but it’s very hard work.

Perfectionists control their riding to make sure that the light is turned on the “right way.”

Dictators ride the bike their own way, it is the only way, and they make sure everyone else does it their way, too.

The Defeatist’s bike never works, and in the rare case that they do get the light turned on, Defeatists know that darkness is only a few moments away again.

Optimists always have some crisis with their bike, but they keep struggling to overcome these difficulties.

Caregivers know they can’t keep the light turned on by themselves, so they make sure to ride the bike in whatever way will get them the help they need.

Quanta Change gives you the choice to allow your well-being to work for you, just as the sun works for our planet and humankind.  To find out what “relaxing in the sun” has looked like for some Quanta Change participants, check out these Quanta Change stories.

It’s Not about Your Thinking!

How many times have you heard, “Want something to be different?Change your thinking!”I disagree. What allows me to make this bold statement, and what is it that we need to change, instead?

The work of Mimi Herrmann allows me to reject the “change your thinking” paradigm. She spent 20 years researching how we develop into the unique human beings we are and how our human energy behaves to generate the lives we experience. She brought her findings together in the theory she called “The Quanta Idea.”

Mimi built this work on a fundamental distinction: it is the behavior of human energy, not human behavior, that generates each moment of your life. In other words, it’s not about what you think or do, it’s about how your energy is behaving invisibly, in the background.

How does your energy decide how to behave, then? It behaves according to how you feel about being human. Your sense of self—your unique way of feeling human—develops from conception until the age of 2 ½. After that point, it is like a battery that your brain uses to generate the moments of your life, without conscious choice or control.

Therefore, thinking merely gives you a way to cope with or control what your sense of self generates. That can be effective to a point, but it can take a lot of energy to continuously deal with what the behavior of your energy is dishing out.

In the course of her research, Mimi realized that much more fundamental and lasting change would happen if you could change what was stored in your sense of self – if you could change how you feel about being human. She saw that there are 2 types of feeling stored in your sense of self – natural well-being and Learned Distress, which she defined as the feeling that “there is something wrong with me.” She set about to give you a way to “unlearn” Learned Distress, with the idea that your natural sense of well-being would expand to take its place, and begin to generate moments that feel good without you having to work for them. The result is the Quanta Change Process.

In future posts, I’ll talk more about how Mimi came to each part of the Quanta Idea, which she said is really the story of your energy. I welcome your feedback and questions!