How Dreams Run Your Life

by Sara Avery on February 12, 2012

Think about the feeling you went to sleep with last night.

Was it joy, excitement, disappointment, anger, sadness, despair?

Or, feeling resigned to how hard you have to work for life to be good?

Or, the sense that if you just keep moving fast enough, you won’t even have time to feel all of that stuff?

If you’re like everyone else, you probably focus mostly on your negative feelings at the end of the day. Then, your brain uses those feelings to recharge your sense of self, which is the invisible engine that generates every moment of your life.

You wake up feeling them just a little more intensely than before. And, your brain uses those newly intensified feelings to generate situations that feel just a little more intense than they did last week, last month, or last year.

Quanta Change steps into that sleep-time renewal process and allows you to recharge with your natural well-being, instead of those negative feelings (which are collectively called Learned Distress). Here’s an example of a Quanta Change dream where lots of change took place.

Shift Theme. (Shifting is the daytime work of Quanta Change, where you tell your brain specifically what you want it to work on during sleep.)

This man was shifting about being able to openly and freely express his own uniqueness.

The Dream. “I’m buried alive. I’m on my stomach and know that I am going to die. But then I realize that it’s a shallow grave, so I could just stand up and break out. I start to move and am able to finally get up on my hands and knees and push up with my back. I keep fighting the feeling that this will never work. I’m not satisfied with staying buried. I keep saying, “This is NOT where I want to be.” I finally break through to the surface and start spitting dirt out. I am free!”

Context. (You bring people, places, animals, things, situations, or timeframes into dreams based on the feeling that they trigger within you. It is that triggered feeling that you are unlearning in the dream.)

1. One of his worst fears is being buried alive or trapped in a very small space where he can’t move. In previous dreams like this, he was unable to break free.
2. At the time he had the dream, he felt trapped by a serious financial situation.

Points of Change. (In a Quanta Change dream, each time there is something wrong and you do something about it, you permanently remove a layer of Learned Distress from your sense of self.)

1. He realizes it’s a shallow grave and he might be able to break out.
2. He realizes he can actually move and starts to do so.
3. Over and over, he fights off the feeling that it won’t work. He says, “This is NOT where I want to be.”  (Multiple points of change.)

So, he’s unlearning the feeling of being trapped. It would be easy to assume that the trapped feeling is about his financial situation, but the trapped feeling is actually about his inability to freely and openly express his uniqueness. The financial situation is merely a “picture” of that feeling for him, generated by his sense that “I am unable to openly express my uniqueness.” In this dream, he did actually get free, but even if he had woken up before that happened or didn’t remember breaking free, he would still have had significant unlearning happen.

Result. Within a couple weeks, he received an offer of financial help from family members who previously said they wouldn’t help him. Within a month of this dream, he had more business opportunities and leads than he had seen in many months, and they were coming in more easily than he had ever experienced.

Do you remember your dreams? What are they about? What feelings do you wake up with after you’ve had an intense dream? Can you see these same feelings being triggered in your waking life? Answering these questions can help you see the immense impact your dreams have on your waking life.

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