Fit IN or Fit Naturally?

Your uniqueness allows you to climb out of the box.I’ve always had a love/hate relationship with the feeling that I need to fit in. On one hand, I always felt a great deal of pressure to conform to my surroundings. On the other, I felt strongly like I needed to do things “my way.” Quite often, this tug-of-war with “fitting” created the need to make it look like I was conforming, while secretly doing things my own way.

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What if Everyone Wins?

Sharing your uniqueness creates a win-win situation.“What if everyone wins?” is something my clients hear from me a lot. It’s because I see so many people squelching their own voices, surprisingly, in response to the condition of scarcity. As humans, we are steeped in the feeling that in any situation, big or small, there has to be a winner and a loser.

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Are You Robbing the World?

Comparing yourself to others kills your creativity and uniqueness“Comparison is an act of violence against the self.”
—Iyanla Vanzant

I would say that this “act of violence” extends to those around us and to society as a whole, also. When we depend on comparing ourselves to something or someone else, we deprive ourselves and the world of our creativity and uniqueness, and also the creation that would come from many unique souls collaborating.

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The Antidote to Perfectionism

The antidote to perfectionism is uniquenessI spend my time immersed in contemplating opposites. When clients come to me with what they want to change, I’m always looking for the negative feeling that is at the root of their problems. Then, I look for the opposite of that feeling, so I can help them shift to it.

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The Cosmic 2×4

Personal growth wake-up call“First you get a whisper, then a tap on the shoulder, then a blow to the head.” —Buddhist saying

I know someone who calls the third phase above a “cosmic 2×4.” I love the description, but “cosmic” makes it sound like this is coming from somewhere “out there,” while actually, the whisper, tap, and blow are all generated within you.

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How to Move from Co-Dependent to Thriving

The move from being co-dependent to thriving.Trees are an amazing example of how life should work, but often doesn’t. Trees draw everything they need to thrive from their own roots and leaves. Likewise, at our core, we humans have what I call well-being, and it is the mechanism through which we are meant to draw everything that we need to thrive.

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Gasp! I’m Not Perfect

There’s this thing my clients say that always surprises me. It happens when I’m telling them about some (usually difficult) part of my ongoing, personal Quanta Change process. They always seemed relieved or even happy to know that I, too, am still cycling through the change process.

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