Getting over My Fear of Forward Motion

Why letting momentum carry us forward can be so scaryWhen I learned how to ski, my favorite point was when the instructor enlightened me on what happens when you turn your skis perpendicular to the slope. . .you stop. I think I said something like, “Oooooh, I love this part!” And then, he coaxed me to point my tips back downhill, which I reluctantly did, and the scary, slide-y part started again.

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The Internal Whac-a-Mole Game

The internal force that keeps your hard work from paying offHave you ever played this game at an arcade or children’s pizza place? Large, plastic moles pop out of a cabinet and you try to whack them with a soft mallet. From either perspective–the player’s or the mole’s—it can seem like a futile and frustrating existence. 

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New Year’s Resolutions That Work WITH Your Brain

Recharge yourself with positive feelingsTraditional New Year’s Resolutions fall into the category of behavior that I call “control mechanisms.” Resolutions like going to the gym more often or losing 20 pounds are based on trying to control the feeling that “there’s something wrong with me being just as I am.” This feeling, called Learned Distress®, is what your brain uses to automatically generate the negative moments of your life.

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Recharging with Violence

We recharge at night with how we feel during the day.As we all grieve the Newtown school shooting, people are contemplating and discussing pieces of the complexity that leads to these tragedies, some of which we may never understand. I find myself focused on how we interact with violence in our culture, specifically in entertainment and video games, and wondering what studies might show about correlation or causation between violent media and violent reality.

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