I know. It sounds way too good to be true. When I first heard about Quanta Change, I thought, “Yeah, right. Whatever.” But, I was intrigued enough to explore it, and 13 years later, I’m telling you from personal experience and having watched it happen for so many clients…change during sleep is not only possible, but sleep is actually the key to deep, lasting change.Continue Reading
One very typical fear that I talk with my clients with a lot is the feeling that we have to know everything. Or, at least, the feeling that we have to seem to know everything.
Have you ever pretended that you knew something when you really didn’t?Continue Reading
A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because her trust is not on the branch, but on her own wings. ~ Unknown
The issue of trusting ourselves or trusting our own inner resources is something I talk about a lot with my clients.Continue Reading
When I tell people that the real work of Quanta Change takes place in their dreams, they have a hard time believing me at first. But, it’s true.
Dreams are the time when the sense of self recharges. The sense of self stores how we feel about being ourselves, and the only time it is open to permanent change is during the recharging time of sleep.Continue Reading
The feeling of “I matter” is one of the most important and prevalent issues I address with my clients. To say it another way, the feeling of “I don’t matter” is at the heart of a great majority of our negative issues as human beings.Continue Reading
“This is so weird. I really should be upset what happened at work, but I’m just not.” This is a direct quote from a client session yesterday, but I’ve heard it many times before from other clients. In fact, “weird” is one of the buzz words I tell people to look out for as a way to take notes on their own Quanta Change process between sessions with me.Continue Reading
As I was watching the latest Middle Eastern uprising unfold this week—this time in Turkey—I thought a lot about freedom. Often, when we hear about freedom, we think of the kind of freedom that Turkish citizens are demonstrating for—freedom from an external oppressor, their government.Continue Reading
“It’s just a feeling, Sara. That’s all.” I replied, “Yeah, easy for you to say! I think this ‘feeling’ might just kill me.” This exchange from more than a decade ago is so clear in my mind, and now, I am often on the other side of it with my own clients.Continue Reading
Pretty often, I have clients who are surprised when I tell them it’s not only OK but actually even good and necessary for them to express their anger. Some of them feel that it isn’t safe to express anger. Many think it’s not even OK to feel it internally, much less have any outlet for it.Continue Reading
Clients often share with me intense concern for their loved ones or friends who are struggling in some way. There’s a very natural and positive side to wanting those around us to be well and succeed, and I celebrate that. But, there’s often an element of Learned Distress at play, also.Continue Reading