It was the weirdest thing the first time it happened to me. My whole life, I had felt very dependent on other people’s approval. And, some people’s opinion of me counted more than others. But, all of a sudden, I just didn’t care anymore about what a particular person in my life thought of me.Continue Reading
Connecting to what you really want—to what really matters to you—is vital. It is what allows you to discover your uniqueness, so that you can make the world a better place. So, it’s a bit alarming to me that one of the most common things I hear from clients is, “I don’t know what I really want.” They usually say it when we’ve started to dig into their feeling that they don’t deserve to have what matters to them.Continue Reading
When I start talking about the concept of having enough with my clients, I can almost guarantee what the response will be. This conversation is most often about money, but it sometimes is about time or energy, too. I ask them to imagine what it would feel like to have enough, and the response is almost always, “Can’t we say ‘more than enough’?”
Why is it that enough rarely feels like enough?Continue Reading
As you may know, I live near Boulder, Colorado, which is experiencing devastating floods. While I have not suffered any property damage, myself, many around me have. When I was thinking what I might say to help those who are facing the loss of their homes, their businesses, and most heartbreaking of all, their loved ones, I kept coming back to the article below that I published several months ago.Continue Reading
One of my clients says that she “always has to work twice as hard for half as much.” Do you know this feeling? Or, maybe you even feel like you work really hard for no pay-off at all. This is such a frustrating piece of Learned Distress, the feeling we absorbed early in life that there’s something wrong with us being exactly the way we are.Continue Reading
Do you notice patterns in your life? Is there a certain thing that just keeps happening? It could be good, like making friends easily, completing tasks quickly, or something as small as having “good parking karma.” But, I bet that’s not what you thought of first.Continue Reading
Well, not real strip poker. First of all, it was in a dream, and second, it was only my client stripping, ordered to do so by a sniper. In Quanta Change, the worse the dream, the bigger and better the change.Continue Reading
Humility is a great thing, right? “Being humble is a virtue.” “The meek shall inherit the Earth.” Actually, I think that message is not meant for everyone. What about those of us who humble ourselves out of the picture entirely?
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I know. It sounds way too good to be true. When I first heard about Quanta Change, I thought, “Yeah, right. Whatever.” But, I was intrigued enough to explore it, and 13 years later, I’m telling you from personal experience and having watched it happen for so many clients…change during sleep is not only possible, but sleep is actually the key to deep, lasting change.Continue Reading
One very typical fear that I talk with my clients with a lot is the feeling that we have to know everything. Or, at least, the feeling that we have to seem to know everything.
Have you ever pretended that you knew something when you really didn’t?Continue Reading