Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail and What Works Better

Free yourself from your limitations.Traditional New Year’s Resolutions fall into the category of behavior that I call “control mechanisms.” Resolutions like going to the gym more often or losing 20 pounds are usually based on trying to control the feeling that “there’s something wrong with me being just as I am.” This feeling, called Learned Distress®, is what your brain uses to automatically generate the negative moments of your life.

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A Surprising Cause of Being Rebellious

I used to be in awe of and even intimidated by rebels. They do everything their own way. They blaze their own trail, make their own rules. They’re so quick-witted that they usually dominate conversations and win any argument. I thought that they were really powerful and completely self-reliant, but I’ve come to see it differently.

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How to Stop Giving Away Your Power

People always say you shouldn’t give away your power. But what does that really mean and why does it happen? Let’s look at one of the reasons people “give away their power,” three areas where it happens most often, and how accessing your inner knowing, or intuition, can bring about a very different result.

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Is Competition Good or Bad for You?

17 years ago, a shocking paradox was revealed through my Quanta Change® Sensory Quotient®: I hate competition, and yet, I’m very competitive.

When you have my personality pattern, it doesn’t feel safe to compete. In my first career as a professional violinist, I would go to symphony orchestra auditions, which are very competitive, and make friends with everyone, encourage them to do well, but be secretly thinking to myself, “But not too well, because I want to win!” (You can find out your personality pattern by taking the free Sensory Quotient test.)

Since then, I’ve done a lot of work to unlearn my buried competitive tendencies, and I’ve thought a lot about this subject.

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