One of my clients says that she “always has to work twice as hard for half as much.” Do you know this feeling? Or, maybe you even feel like you work really hard for no pay-off at all. This is such a frustrating piece of Learned Distress, the feeling we absorbed early in life that there’s something wrong with us being exactly the way we are.Continue Reading
Do you notice patterns in your life? Is there a certain thing that just keeps happening? It could be good, like making friends easily, completing tasks quickly, or something as small as having “good parking karma.” But, I bet that’s not what you thought of first.Continue Reading
Well, not real strip poker. First of all, it was in a dream, and second, it was only my client stripping, ordered to do so by a sniper. In Quanta Change, the worse the dream, the bigger and better the change.Continue Reading
Humility is a great thing, right? “Being humble is a virtue.” “The meek shall inherit the Earth.” Actually, I think that message is not meant for everyone. What about those of us who humble ourselves out of the picture entirely?
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I know. It sounds way too good to be true. When I first heard about Quanta Change, I thought, “Yeah, right. Whatever.” But, I was intrigued enough to explore it, and 13 years later, I’m telling you from personal experience and having watched it happen for so many clients…change during sleep is not only possible, but sleep is actually the key to deep, lasting change.Continue Reading
One very typical fear that I talk with my clients with a lot is the feeling that we have to know everything. Or, at least, the feeling that we have to seem to know everything.
Have you ever pretended that you knew something when you really didn’t?Continue Reading
A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because her trust is not on the branch, but on her own wings. ~ Unknown
The issue of trusting ourselves or trusting our own inner resources is something I talk about a lot with my clients.Continue Reading
When I tell people that the real work of Quanta Change takes place in their dreams, they have a hard time believing me at first. But, it’s true.
Dreams are the time when the sense of self recharges. The sense of self stores how we feel about being ourselves, and the only time it is open to permanent change is during the recharging time of sleep.Continue Reading
The feeling of “I matter” is one of the most important and prevalent issues I address with my clients. To say it another way, the feeling of “I don’t matter” is at the heart of a great majority of our negative issues as human beings.Continue Reading
“This is so weird. I really should be upset what happened at work, but I’m just not.” This is a direct quote from a client session yesterday, but I’ve heard it many times before from other clients. In fact, “weird” is one of the buzz words I tell people to look out for as a way to take notes on their own Quanta Change process between sessions with me.Continue Reading