Have you ever made some fundamental change because things were going great? If you have, you’ll be the first person I’ve heard of who has. Usually, people show up in my office because they’ve hit a brick wall of some sort, and they feel that something has to change….Continue Reading
Every moment of your life is generated by a 2-year-old. Sounds crazy, right? But every time I explain how this works to someone, the response is, “Finally, I can understand what’s going on in my life. That makes so much sense!”
So, who is this 2-year-old, and how in the world did it get to be in charge?Continue Reading
“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.” –Marcel Proust
I have a love-hate relationship with this quote. I love that it points toward a deep discovery of self as a way to experience life differently.Continue Reading
Do you know how much influence your dreams having on your waking life? It’s immeasurable. Each night, your brain takes how you feel about being human to sleep with you. It uses that feeling to recharge your sense of self, which is the invisible engine that generates every moment of your life.Continue Reading
I used to think that love was something you do or give in relation to another person. Some say it’s a choice.
Actually, unconditional love is just a natural consequence of completely accepting yourself exactly as you are. And not only do you feel better, but other people feel it – it’s really amazing as it starts to happen!Continue Reading
Sometimes Quanta Change brings dramatic, longed-for changes. One of these happened for a talented singer-songwriter and guitarist whose health issues prevented him from playing guitar for several years. Having his favorite creative pursuit stifled was discouraging, but he had accepted it.Continue Reading
“You need to get more work done. Can you go back to sleep?” Mimi Herrmann, Quanta Change founder, said that to me a few times over the years. You’re probably laughing, but she was completely serious.
Dreams are your brain’s vehicle for recharging your batteries – specifically, the battery that stores how you feel about being human and how you deal the situations in your life.Continue Reading
“Procrastination” does NOT equal “lazy.” This is one of my favorite things to tell people who procrastinate, as so many of us do! Procrastination stems from the fear that “I don’t know how to do this perfectly.” You can say this in a number of ways, including, “I’m not smart enough,” and, “I’m not good enough.” Or, your inner voice might say, “I HAVE to do this perfectly,” or, “I HAVE to show everyone that I know how.”
When this form of Learned Distress is triggered, we do everything we can to avoid having “I’m not good enough” confirmed once again, or having people see our deepest secret – that we aren’t perfect.Continue Reading
Mimi Herrmann, Quanta Change founder, told me this story just as I was beginning the process for myself. It gave me a great idea of what was to come. . .and it still gives me goosebumps when I tell it:
Long ago, there was a war that had been going on for many years.
People tell me all the time, “I work really hard to create good change in my life and I still wake up day after day feeling the same and stuck in the same situations. Maybe it changes a little, but not much.Continue Reading